Thursday, February 4, 2010

The Year 2007

I feel like I need to clarify before Ben was born.  Kris and I had not lost our love for God.  After looking back I see that our prespective was more on us then on God.  I felt we were very selfish in our walk with God.  That perspective and attitude change was a gradual change as God nudged us forward in life.  I know He was molding us to be more like Him, to rely on Him, to be completely and totally His.  And when you finally see that, you totally get it and then you live it with HIM the center of EVERYTHING!!

Our lives have not been the same since we brought Mr. Zach home from the hospital.  We seem to be very, very busy!  But loving every minute of it!

After Zach was born I knew I couldn't work part time any more so I quit working at Mamasitas.  Kris' traveling picked up at work and it was good to have that stability at home.  In February of 2007 I felt God calling me to do more for Him.  I felt God calling me to go to Mexicali, MX on a short term Missions trip.  Kris was amazing support and encouraged me to go.  I was a little apprehensive as I had this new baby, Ben, and Kristopher to be responsible for.  I thought that was, what God was calling me to do.  I didn't ignore God and went to Mexicali.  What an amazing experience.  This ministry has grown to be apart of our lives as a family.  Kristopher has learned so much from us going.  He understands the importance of going out into the world to share the Gospel.  He sees it when we go every year and he get so excited for us.  It encourages him to share Jesus with his friends at school. 


This year the Lord blessed us with a couple of trips.

The first one was in August, 2007.  We went to Pelton Creek, WY with my parents and then met up with my sister and her family in Colorado Springs, CO.  We had so much fun on that trip.  Camping in the mountains and then going and doing some site seeing in CO.  We went to the Garden of the Gods and road the Cog Railway up to the top of Pikes Peak. 

Our next trip was in October, 2007.  We went to Rapid City, SD.  We were able to go on work related trip with Kris for a whole week.  This was our first vacation we took with just the five of us.  We had so much fun together.  We saw Mount Rushmore, Reptile Gardens, Buffalo, Mountains, and so much more.  It was a really fun family get a way!

 The boys at the foot of Mount Rushmore.

Ben was still receiving his home visits with his Occupational Therapist.  After Ben turned three in April, most services some what come to an end at the house.  It was time to transition Ben to a preschool.  But where?  We were praying for God to help us find a preschool for Ben that would help Ben grasp so much before entering into Kindergarten.  Then we discovered our school district was putting in a preschool.  So we prayed for this preschool.  Now it was time to hire a teacher.  So we prayed for a teacher! 
GOD IS SO GOOD!
We tell people that we have prayed so much for this preschool that it was "Ben's school". We are just so excited that it is reaching so many children!  We know God had a hand in it all.  God brought us a preschool to Bennet right next to the elementary school and they hired a Christian teacher that goes to our church.  So we prayed for Mrs. Cheney as she finalized many details and we waited for her to call us to tell us when school would begin!
AGAIN, GOD IS SO GOOD!

Friday, January 22, 2010

Zachery James Phillips

Here comes Zachery James Phillips.  Our family has been hoppin since he made his appreance!  Zachery James Phillips was born on Monday, August 21, 2006 at 7:48am.  He weighed 8 lbs. 1 oz and was 20 in. long.  Zachery was born on Kristopher's first day of the first grade.  Kristopher just went a half day that day!  He was pretty excited to see his new brother.  Since Zachery was born so early in morning not many people were there to visit right away.  We had many visitors trickle in through our stay.  Since this was my third child and my second C-Section I knew what to expect.  All I wanted to do was go home and be with my family.  The doctors understood and let us go home Wednesday morning! 

Zachery was a good but difficult baby.  He felt like he needed to eat all the time and was never satisfied unless he was eating.  He has grown out of that a little bit.  He still feels the need to eat and he can pack it away!  I craved pizza and pepsi with Zach and if you ask him what his favorite food is he'll tell you its pizza.  It's weird how that happens!  We praise God for this new blessing in our lives.  We had some BIGGER adjustments with two little boys and now this third.  God works things all out for His good!  Zachery maybe a handful but he is the finishing touch to our family!

Adjustments

After we brought Benjamin home we had several people call us and want us to start him with physical and occupational therapy.  Kris and I were still adjusting to this whole thing.  We really didn't know what to do.  Our doctor told me I had to nurse Ben for as long as I could becuase that would strengthen his muscles in his face and would help him later with verbal communication.  Ben still was struggling with nursing.  We agreed we wanted him to be nursing completely on his own before adding something else to our schedule and his. 

When Ben turned 4 months old we called and set up a meeting with ESU.  They brought in the physical and occupational therapists.  Every other week his occupational therapist came out to give us advice to help his muscles grow stronger.

Ben did great!  He excelled in every thing she laid out for him.  It took work from us on a daily basis to make sure we did his exercises.  Kristopher was my helper and I remember us sitting on the floor together playing with him and casually working in our exercises.  They made Ben work...but they also made him stronger. 

Kris graduated from SCC in March of 2005. Right before he graduated Benjamin was put in the hospital for a week because he had RSV and a small case of Pneamonia.  This seemed common for Ben it always seemed like we were in the ER, at the doctor's office or having a surgery.  Those finanical burdens always seemed to be there with only one income and me working part time as a waitress.  The Lord always provided.  Our bills always got paid.  It was tight a lot of months but God made it work! 

I was so glad that the Lord made it work out for me to be a stay home mom.  Kristopher and Ben needed me to be there!  Praise the Lord for HIS plan!

In October of 2005 Kris found a job with Medical Technologies. 

By the time Ben turned two and 1/2 our goal was to have him walking.  Because I was expecting again and I knew I couldn't carry two little ones all over.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Special Moms

Did you ever wonder how mothers of Handicapped children were chosen?  Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation.  As he observes, He instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.  Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child." 
The angel is curious. "Why this one, God?  She's so happy." 
"Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter?  That would be cruel." 
"But has she patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair.  Once the shock and resentment wear off, she will handle it."
"I watched her today.  She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother.  You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world.  She has to make him live in her world and that's not going to be easy."
"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." 
God smiles, "No matter.  I can fix that.  This one is perfect.  She has just enough selfishness."
The angel gasps, "Selfishness?  Is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive.  Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect.  She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied.  She will never take for granted a 'spoken word.'  She will never consider a 'step' ordinary.  When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it.  When she describes a tree or a sunset to her child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations." "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see... ignorance, cruelty, prejudice...and allow her to rise above them.  She will never be alone.  I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

Benjamin Robert Phillips



With another weird but some what good pregnancy, Benjamin Robert Phillips made his appreance in to our family, 4 weeks early, on Tuesday, April 27, 2004 at 12:12pm.  Benjamin weighed 5 lbs. 5 oz. and was 18 in. long.   

Benjamin was breech so they scheduled me a C-Section.  After he was born our doctor could see their was something wrong.  Kris noticed our doctors concerns and asked me if he could leave to go with Ben.  I said sure, not knowing anything at all.  Our doctor looked Ben over and did some tests on him.  It was evident with just the few tests that Ben was born with Down Syndrome.  We had excited visitors eyeing Ben through the nursery windows.  Our doctor saw this and took Kris to a small room off the nursery and told him that Ben was born with Down Syndrome.  He told Kris to take as much time as he needed before he came out to attend to our waiting visitors.  I was still in recovery and still hadn't seen my new baby yet and didn't know of any concerns.  Kris and our doctor came down to recovery and shared the news with me.  Shock and numbness is all I felt.  I was now holding our new son looking at him and saying, "But he doesn't look like he has Down Syndrome."  Not that I even knew what that was!  Kris and I both at that moment knew we needed someone way bigger then each other to cling to and that was OUR LORD AND SAVIOR!



All those baby steps for God's perfect plan!

The very next day Benjamin was put into NICU.  He was having trouble keeping up his body temp and his blood sugar level was low.  Benjamin didn't know how to eat.  We needed to teach him how to use his muscles to eat.  Once he started eating his blood sugar level and body temp would level out.  One week later he established just that. 

I remember sitting in the NICU searching the scripture for peace and comfort.  Our pastor would come up everyday to visit us, pray with us and read scripture.  Kris and I knew that this was God's plan we needed to be strong in Christ to do what He laid out for us to do.  He trusted US with one of his most prize possesions, a child with special needs.  While I was reading one day sitting in the hospital room I came to this verse and I knew God had a plan for Ben.  Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."  This verse brought us great encouragement knowing we just needed to trust and listen to what God called us to do. He has a plan. Our plan involved Ben!


One week later we got to bring Ben home.  We love this little boy to death and would never want to change this path we are on.  But there has been times these last five years where we said, "WHY?  WHY US?"  "WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING!"  We pray, we pray a lot!  God doesn't promise us it will get easier, He just makes us stronger to follow through for His plan! 

This was our turning point in our lives!  We knew we wanted to live a life of Christ and not of self.

God's Work

Kris was raised in a Christian home and accepted Christ as his Savior when he was a little boy.  He had taken a Missions Trip to Venezula during the summer in 1991.  He had a good strong Christian youth group that he attended.  You could tell he had a real love for the Lord.  After we were married he made sure we went to church every Sunday.  He was active in AWANA and the Missions Committee.  He became so busy with his life and starting a new family that things changed for him. 

We could feel the nudges of our Lord to come back to HIM!

I accepted Christ when I was 15 years old.  My dad died, in a work related accident, when I was 13 years old.  I watched my mom work full time, raise a family, and go to school full time all for us.  She went back to school to so she could get a better job.  When she graduated she started working at Woodmen Accident Life as a Secretary for Les McGerr.  Les led my mom to Christ.  This was all my mom could talk about.  Les and Johnnie (his wife) would invite us over for dinner and visit with us.  I just knew him as the man that knew everything about the Bible.  We still attended the Catholic church.  I attended the Wednesday night Youth Group.  We discussed what we wanted to study.  Some of the kids wanted to study the book of Revelations.  I told them I knew this guy that knew everything about the Bible.  I would ask him to come and speak if they wanted me to.  GOD PLANS EVERYTHING!!!  So I invited him and he spoke about the book of Revelations.  My mom came too.  So here I am 15 years old hearing how you could be left behind when Christ comes again.  On the way home Les continued to talk to me.  I accepted Christ that evening.  I knew I wanted to go to heaven.  I was on fire for the Lord...over the years that fired died.  I also got busy with my life and the changes of starting a new family things changed for me too.

We could feel the nudges of our Lord to come back to HIM!

We brought Kristopher home with us and we went on as a family from that very exciting day.  There were many ups and downs as most new couples will and would have with their first baby.  We were some what active in our church and we could feel God pushing us forward to follow him, to listen to Him.  Kris continued to work for LSO and I still managed the Hallmark store. 

In 2002, I managed two Hallmark stores and was very busy.  Kris decided to go back to school and get his degree in Electronic Engineering.  I knew this wasn't what I wanted in my life working, never seeing Kristopher.  Kris was gone a lot too.  I decided to get involved in WHEW at church.  A Women's Bible Study, and it was there that God spoke to me and said there is more to your life then work, work, work.  Through lots of prayer I felt that God was leading me to be a stay home mom. 

In February 2003, I quite working at the Hallmark stores and decided to stay home.  BIG changes!  That second income was gone and BIG adjustments were needed to be made.  What a way to learn to rely on God!  I did work part time as a waitress at Mamasitas to help with the adjustment.  Kris continued to work at LSO and go to school full time.  God still working on us bringing us to learn more about what he has in store for us.  We also knew we wanted to  try to have another baby.  In June of 2003 I miscarried a baby at 8 weeks.  Another growing pain we worked through and relied on God to help us through that.

All these baby steps.... we were learning to rely more and more on Him and not on ourselves!

Kristopher William Phillips

After a very rough pregnancy, Kristopher William Phillips made his appearance in to the world on Friday, February 25, 2000 at 4:43pm.  He weighed 6 lbs. 14 oz. and was 20 in long.  We were very proud new parents.  Kristopher was the first great grandson, grandson, and nephew on my side.  There were many people waiting for his arrival.  Since he was born right around supper time and Kris hadn't eaten anything yet and neither had all our visitors.  When I was moved to my recovery room Kris ordered pizzas and we had a party celebrating Kristopher's arrival.  Our doctor still remembers this day!  He had never seen so many people in a hospital room celebrating this wonderful birth!  Great memories we will have! 

This day was the happiest day of our lives, we became parents!

We picked out a Bible verse for him, "Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it"  Proverbs 22:6